If your sex life isn't as good as it used to be, or you have difficulties in arousal, or performance anxiety, I may be able to help.
Sex is a topic that many feel uncomfortable to talk about, let alone seeking therapy for difficulties in this area.
As a sex therapist, I am quite comfortable talking about sexual issues. This helps my clients feel more comfortable talking about such an intimate topic.
My attitude is that there is a very wide range of human sexual behaviour that is normal and natural. This does help people feel more comfortable and accepted with whatever their problems might be.
If you feel anxiety around your performance in the bedroom, you probably already know that there are well-established links between anxiety and arousal. I will help you develop techniques that reduce stress and help you to relax.
Just as you might lift weights to build muscle, you also need to practice relaxation techniques to improve your resilience to anxiety.
If the spark has left the bedroom, you can find it again. It is common for partners to struggle to find time to 'get in the mood' because we are so time poor. By the time work, children, household chores, sporting and social commitments are all met; we're often left exhausted and not in the mood for anything in the bedroom!
To have a healthy and intimate relationship, it is necessary to plan for the time for this to happen. Like all the other important things that are 'booked in' so should time for connection and intimacy. I know you're probably thinking "So much for spontaneity," but when we're plugged into our devices 24x7, we need a reminder to stop and take time for our relationship.
Having time booked for intimacy does not mean, it's 9 pm, time for sex. It is vital that intimacy is demonstrated throughout the day. There is a saying that foreplay begins in the morning. Kind gestures, lingering touches, and small tokens of affection start the fire smouldering in the morning ensuring the fire is hot by bed time.
Sex therapy is not just about the sex. As you can see from the above, it’s also about the relationship. So generally speaking even though it may look like only one of you “has the problem”, my approach generally is to work with the couple and the relationship in order to fix the sexual problem.
If you and your partner aren't connecting mentally and emotionally, connecting physically will be a challenge.
Making time to improve your sex life starts with an appointment.
I look forward to helping you.