Perhaps you have been referred to me by a friend, family member or trusted advisor? Many of my clients find me this way. Therapy is a positive experience for most of my clients, and after helping someone achieve their goals, work through their struggles or improve their ways of thinking, they often refer others to me. I hope I can be as helpful to you.
So, a little bit about me; I have worked as a clinical psychologist for over 30 years. I began my psychology career doing voluntary work with nondrinking outpatient alcoholics. I then went on to working with family problems, couples, sexual dysfunction, drug and alcohol problems and Attention Deficit Disorder in children and adults. I have also trained with John and Julie Gottman as a relationship therapist to Level III.
Over the years I have dealt with a wide range of people and problems using a compassionate and relatively egoless approach. I pay careful attention to the individual and attempt to put aside my own ego in order to understand and walk in the shoes of my clients.
The feedback I receive from clients is that they feel safe and comfortable with me. As a psychologist, I have moved from being "nondirective", to being more prepared to voice an opinion as to what people should or shouldn't do with their lives and their relationships. While this may go somewhat against the grain in psychology, I believe that my life experience and my over 30 years of professional experience gives me some insight and understanding on how to live life and work through the problems that life presents.
It seems to me that many of life's problems relate to relationships. I consider myself to have reasonable experience in the area of how people relate to each other, how they communicate with each other, and how they understand each other and how conflict is perpetuated or resolved between people.
I work at my own relationships, applying the same knowledge and techniques I discuss with my clients, to keep my family life stable and happy. I must be doing something right as I have been married for well over 40 years.
I adopt an evolutionary perspective and understanding of human nature. Much of human behaviour has been laid down by hundreds and thousands of years of evolution and the evolution of the human brain is an important way of understanding people's emotions, thoughts and behaviours.
I adopt a non-judgemental and compassionate approach to people, I am somewhat unconventional in my approach and I am not "a slave to the system". Paradoxically my views are relatively conservative, but broad and open-minded at the same time.
I am able to relate to both young and old, from children aged seven or eight upward to the elderly. I seem to be able to connect with most people, and they report feeling safe and comfortable with me.
With younger people I can be quite animated and provocative in my approach. I do not tend to sit quietly and reflect, "how do you feel" and be non-committal, but will voice an opinion and reflect what I believe is going on for my clients.
And so seeing me as a psychologist may not be for everyone. But most people come away feeling somewhat better and somewhat understood. This then gives them some hope and some direction for their lives.
If you feel that my approach may be helpful to you, feel free to give me a call.